Is it me or is everyone getting hitched or getting ditched? From my Facebook feed flooded with engagements to Hollywood announcing the latest celebrity breakups, all I know is that its a never-ending cycle. Even Slater & Gordon have listed the top 20 reasons for divorce; has forever become for now and are we living in the moment more rather than living for the future?
Perhaps its a millennial thing (this has been my excuse a lot this year), but the world of marriage has definitely changed from when I was growing up. I always thought marriage was something that I’d never want, and in some respects I don’t want it.
But society keeps telling me it should be everything I want right now.
Social media keeps telling me it should be everything I want right now.
Some of my friends keep telling me it should be everything I want right now.
I guess what I really want is the party, the celebration, the final thing to say ‘Hey, I did that!’.
But I’ve always said to myself, fall in love with yourself first, and everything will fall into place. People, partners and things come and go, but it’s important to know who you are all the way through
But what is it all for? Is finding a life-long partner the ultimate goal in life? To some, yes. For me, not right now.
Marriage, weddings and all things getting hitched have changed from what they used to be. I guess my generation isn’t settling like they used to, instead moving around, moving from job to job and partner to partner.
Are we the nomads our ancestors once were?
Have we become a generation of unsettling? In some respects, yes. Houses are ridiculously expensive, jobs aren’t secure and we are living in an era of self-made success. So in some respects, the same goes for marriage, which isn’t just about a fairytale while wedding. Perhaps ‘not settling’ is the new settling, no longer leading a life dedicated to the white picket fence, two kids, a dog and whatever else goes along with that vision.
For now, my journey is a single ticket for a single life and that’s okay. But for when the day comes around, you’ll never know, because somethings have to be kept a mystery. But I would like something like this.
What are your thoughts on the state of marriage in 2017? Are you getting hitched or getting ditched?
Please note, this is a collaborative post.